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Starting a conversation

This post is close to my heart.

As someone who identifies as non-binary, I’ve spent years exploring how identity, language, and communication intersect—both personally and professionally. Sharing this post isn’t just about explaining who I am; it’s about starting a meaningful conversation.

I believe that conversation can help us better understand non-binary identity. It challenges assumptions and expands empathy. It also fosters more authentic connections, beginning with ourselves. I hope this post offers some clarity. It may spark reflection. It might even invite you to think about more open and inclusive ways of communicating. It makes sense to me, and I’d love to tell you why.

Understanding the Basics: Sex vs. Gender

When we talk about gender identity, it’s always good to begin with explaining the distinction between sex and gender.

Sex is biological—chromosomes, reproductive organs, and hormones typically define us as male or female at birth. Gender, however, is about how we see ourselves and how we want to be seen. Gender is a social and cultural construct that classifies us as men, women, both, neither, or something else entirely.

Don’t believe anyone who says there are only two genders. Gender roles and identities vary widely, and they might even evolve over time. Treating gender as fixed or binary simply doesn’t reflect the rich spectrum of who we are: unique.

And just to be clear: gender identity has nothing to do with sexuality. If you’re curious about how they relate, here’s a link where you can read more.

Gender Identity: This Is Who We Are

Gender identity goes far deeper than appearances—it’s an internal compass, a deep sense of who we are. For many people, this aligns with the sex assigned at birth. But for others—like transgender, non-binary, or gender-fluid individuals—there’s a disconnect.

Someone who is transgender may identify as a man, a woman, both, or neither. Their identity is independent of biological sex. This is because their truth lies outside conventional categories. That truth is valid, personal, and powerful—and it deserves recognition and respect.

Gender Expression: Communication in Action

The way we express our gender identity—through dress, language, behaviour, and presentation—is called gender expression. It’s how we communicate who we are to the world.

Everyone expresses themselves uniquely, and that expression may or may not align with traditional expectations based on their sex. Let me repeat: gender expression exists on a spectrum. Anyone, regardless of identity, can—and I believe should—challenge or disregard rigid societal expectations.

Why This Matters for Communication

Understanding gender identity increases awareness of the assumptions we make in everyday communication. When we cling to binary norms, we risk excluding or misrepresenting many beautiful, creative and worthwhile people.

Seemingly small details—pronouns, names, even tone—can either affirm or alienate. And make no mistake: they’re not small things at all.

Being mindful of how we address others is important. Asking questions and making space for diverse identities isn’t just inclusive. It builds trust and strengthens connection. It also pushes us to be more present, more thoughtful, and more precise.

If you’re interested, I’ve developed a Checklist for Inclusive Communication that can help guide this process in real terms.

Expanding COMMUNICATION Perspectives

Understanding non-binary identity isn’t just an act of empathy—it’s an invitation to broaden your perspective by embracing differences. It helps you question assumptions, stay curious, and reconsider what it truly means to see and hear one another. And this, in turn, enhances the quality of our communication.

Living as a non-binary person has fundamentally reshaped how I engage with the world. It’s made me more sensitive to nuance. I am more open to differences. And I’m also more aware of the invisible norms that shape language and behaviour.

My Non-Binary Identity

For me, identifying as non-binary means not fitting neatly into the categories of man or woman. It’s not about rejection; quite the opposite—it’s about honesty, accuracy, and a wider embrace of self.

This identity is central to how I live and communicate. I understand not everyone will fully understand it right away—and that’s okay. By being visible and open, I hope to encourage others to do the same in whatever way feels right to them.

As for pronouns: mine are they/them and he/him. That may not apply to others, which is why I encourage you to keep learning. (You can start here).

I’m Open to Conversations

I’m always open to thoughtful conversations about gender identity and communication—whether one-on-one, within communities, or in more public settings. If you’re an individual and looking to explore this topic, I’d be happy to exchange views (or just listen). Organizations or companies interested in the topic can also reach out to me. I can serve as an advisor or facilitator.

Especially in the current challenging times for our community, these dialogues are vital for fostering understanding, empathy, and stronger human connections. And we need a strong community more than ever.

Moving Ahead: Communicate With Openness

We’re all learning. The more we understand gender identity—in all its complexity—the better we can connect across our differences.

Great communication clarifies, invites curiosity, and breaks down barriers. It leads with openness, not assumptions.

I hope this post sparked questions, thoughts, or even a pause for reflection. I want to help build a meaningful place to start understanding the power of gender identity in how we communicate.

And you know where to find me.